Effects of Marriage Equality in Family Law

By: Jonathan Melton

Marriage laws have rapidly changed in North Carolina and across the country. In May 2012, 21 percent of this state’s registered voters cast ballots in favor of a constitutional amendment banning same-sex unions. Fast-forward 18 months to October 2014 and a federal district court invalidated that amendment. And, on June 26, 2015, the U.S. Supreme Court made marriage equality the law in every state. But how do these changes affect our LGBT clients?

The biggest, and most obvious, effect of the recent Supreme Court ruling is that marriages of same-sex couples are valid across the country. In its ruling the Supreme Court addressed two key questions: (1) does the Constitution require a state to license a marriage between two people of the same sex; and (2) if same-sex couples marry in a state where gay marriage is legal must other states recognize their marriage? The court said, simply, yes.

Before the ruling, the marriages of same-sex couples wed in this state could be ignored by other states. Likewise, it was unclear whether this state would acknowledge the marriages of same-sex couples from other states. Now, all of those marriages are legal, no matter where they took place. That means same-sex couples may avail themselves of all the common family law claims – alimony, child support, child custody, equitable distribution and divorce.

Another large benefit to our LGBT clients is that they may now seek the protections of our domestic violence statute, N.C. Gen. Stat 50- B. That statute protects individuals engaged in a “personal relationship.” A personal relationship under the statute includes current or former spouses. Before the Supreme Court ruling, gay couples were not covered by the statute. The statute still does not yet protect two people of the same sex who are simply dating; the statute still limits dating relationship to members of the opposite sex.

The effect of the Supreme Court ruling on that part of the statute is yet to be seen, but the language of the Supreme Court’s opinion certainly lends weight to the notion that our domestic violence law is likely to change. The Supreme Court held that the right to marry is a fundamental right under the due process and equal protection clauses of the Fourteenth Amendment. Basically, gay couples may not be deprived of the same right afforded to straight couples. The Supreme Court’s decision to root the basis of marriage equality in the equal protection clause of the Fourteenth Amendment naturally gives rise to the argument that same-sex couples should not be treated differently under any laws of this state.

That same logic could also spell doom for the recently-enacted state law which allows magistrates to refuse to perform gay marriages, if the marriages violate his or her religious beliefs. The practical effect of that law could make it more difficult for same-sex couples to get married. While the Supreme Court’s ruling does not directly invalidate this law, the argument remains that if a gay couple is unable to find a magistrate to marry them, then the new law interferes with the couple’s constitutional rights. Supporters of the magistrate law might argue that it does not violate a same-sex couple’s equal protection rights, because that couple could drive to another town to find a magistrate willing to marry them. It is likely we should expect that debate, and many others, to play out over the next year.

It is probably too soon for domestic lawyers to realize the effects of the recent Supreme Court ruling. But regardless of your personal beliefs on the issue, one fact is clear: same-sex marriages will have a substantial impact on our practice.

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What Right Do You Have to Visit Your Grandkids?

By: Stephanie Gibbs

North Carolina custody laws are clear that parents have the Constitutional right to make decisions regarding their children, including whether their children may visit their grandparents.  What happens when parents “freeze out” grandparents, refusing to allow them to visit the grandkids?

In an “intact family” – a family where mom and dad are living together with the children – grandparents do not have the right to demand visits with their grandkids. But when parents separate, grandparents who have been “frozen out” may have the chance to ask a judge for the right to visit their grandchildren. If one of the parents files a custody lawsuit, both the maternal and paternal biological grandparents may ask to “intervene” in the lawsuit so that they can ask the court to award them visitation rights.  “Intervening” means asking the court to allow the grandparent to become a party to the lawsuit so that he or she can ask the court for visitation rights.

North Carolina’s main “grandparent visitation” law says:

An order for custody of a minor child may provide visitation rights for any grandparent of the child as the court, in its discretion, deems appropriate. As used in this subsection, “grandparent” includes a biological grandparent of a child adopted by a stepparent or a relative of the child where a substantial relationship exists between the grandparent and the child. Under no circumstances shall a biological grandparent of a child adopted by adoptive parents, neither of whom is related to the child and where parental rights of both biological parents have been terminated, be entitled to visitation rights.

N.C. Gen. Stat. § 50-13.2(b1) (2016).

Current law does not allow “step” grandparents’ to intervene in a pending custody action.

To intervene, a grandparent must show the court that he or she has a “substantial relationship” with the grandchildren.  While North Carolina law does not specifically define “substantial relationship,” grandparents who seek court-ordered visitation with their grandkids typically describe, in their Complaint, the nature of their relationship with their grandchildren: Activities they have done with the children (playing, reading, traveling); care they have provided for the children (babysitting, providing meals, helping with homework); financial and other tangible support they have provided for the children; the amount of time they have spent with the children, and the quality of the relationship they share with the children – loving, nurturing, caring.

Timing is very important in seeking court-ordered visitation rights.  Grandparents who wish to intervene must do so while the parents’ custody action is pending, before a permanent custody order is entered by the court (signed by the judge and put in the court file).  Once a permanent custody order is entered, grandparents lose the legal ability to intervene. Grandparents don’t  regain the legal opportunity to intervene unless and until one of the parents files a Motion to Modify the existing permanent custody order.

Several other North Carolina laws specifically pertain to grandparent visitation, and North Carolina’s broader custody laws also provide for grandparents to seek custody of their grandchildren in certain situations.

If you are concerned about your rights, as the grandparent of children whose parents are divorcing, you should consult with an attorney knowledgeable in the specific laws that relate to grandparent custody and visitation.

Stephanie Gibbs is a Board-Certified Family Law Specialist who represents grandparents seeking visitation rights and/or custody of their grandchildren.

 

 

 

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When Should You Seek “Grandparent Visitation” through the Courts?

When parents of young children divorce, grandparents may be affected.  In an ideal situation, divorcing spouses allow and encourage their children to continue seeing the family members of both spouses.  Unfortunately, that’s not always the case.  Conflicts that arise during divorce sometimes lead to one or both spouses refusing to allow the children to see the other spouse’s parents.  What can grandparents do in this situation?

In North Carolina, under limited circumstances, the law protects grandparents’ ability to continue seeing their grandchildren after the parents divorce.  Courts can award grandparents “independent” visitation – time in which to see their grandchildren that is not contingent upon the divorcing parents’ approval – if the court determines that the visitation would be in the grandchildren’s best interest.

The first thing grandparents need to know, if they are thinking about seeking visitation through the courts, is that in most cases they must file a “Motion to Intervene” in the parent-spouses’ custody case while the custody case is pending.  A “Motion to Intervene” allows grandparents to enter a custody case by becoming a party to the case.  If grandparents fail to file a “Motion to Intervene” before the custody case is resolved, the “door is closed” and grandparents no longer have the legal ability to seek independent visitation through the courts.

North Carolina’s “grandparent visitation” statutes apply to various circumstances in which grandparents may seek to intervene and, if permitted to intervene, then seek visitation with their grandchildren.  The statutes are as follows:

• N.C. Gen. Stat. § 50-13.2(b1) states that “an order for custody of a minor child may provide visitation rights for any grandparent of the child as the court, in its discretion, deems appropriate.”  North Carolina appellate courts have indicated that if a grandparent can show a “substantial relationship” with the child and a custody suit is pending, grandparents have a right to intervene.

• N.C. Gen. Stat. § 50-13.2A entitles a grandparent to seek visitation when the child is “adopted by a stepparent or a relative of the child where a substantial relationship exists between the grandparent and the child.”  Under this statute, there need not be a pending custody case.

• N.C. Gen. Stat. § 50-13.5(j) entitles a grandparent to seek visitation “in any action in which the custody of a minor child has been determined, upon a motion in the cause and a showing of changed circumstances pursuant to N.C. Gen. Stat. 50-13.7.”  Under this statute, a grandparent must show that he or she has a “substantial relationship” with the child, and also that a “substantial change of circumstances affecting the welfare of the child” has occurred since a prior custody order was entered (more about this topic in a coming article).

• N.C. Gen. Stat. § 50-13.1(a) entitles a grandparent to “institute an action or proceeding for custody” of a grandchild under certain circumstances.  Under this statute, a grandparent may sue for custody (not visitation) on grounds that the parents are unfit or have “acted inconsistently” with their constitutionally protected status as parents (this topic was addressed in a prior article).  However, grandparents are not entitled to seek visitation under this statute when there is no pending custody suit and the grandchild’s family is “intact,” that is, neither parent has filed a custody suit and custody is not an issue being considered by the court.  Further, North Carolina’s courts have made clear that a grandparent’s suit for custody is a very different type of case than a grandparent’s suit for visitation.

Under each of these statutes, it is the grandparents’ legal burden to prove to the court that he or she has a substantial relationship with the child, and that it is in the child’s best interest that the grandparent be awarded independent visitation.

Parents facing a potential suit from grandparents seeking visitation may wish to examine whether the grandparent does, in fact, have a “substantial” relationship with the child, and be prepared to show the court that it would not be in the child’s best interest that the grandparent be awarded visitation.

Under either scenario, “grandparent visitation” cases can be complex.  If you are thinking about suing for visitation, or you are faced with a grandparent’s lawsuit, you should seek the advice of an attorney with experience and skill in this area of family law.

 

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